I haven’t worn anything on my legs besides pants since 1990.  That is to say, no stockings, no panty hose, tights or other torturous forms of gam confinement.  I find it hard just typing the words so profound is my hatred of such things.

I didn’t think much about it until I was forced into having dinner at a very exclusive, very formal, very old money golf establishment.

My girlfriend told me there was a “blazer” rule.


“Women have to wear blazers”, she told me.

I did not believe her.  She, too, endured one of these invitations but hers was a lunch.

Lunch is different from dinner.  Maybe at lunch you had to wear a blazer but surely not for dinner.


I did not want to attend this dinner.

It means I have to pull out the St. John knit dress that is reserved for funerals or the like when I have to look respectable.  No cleavage.  No alluring features. Just a straight black and white knit dress albeit one with a hemline that sits well above the knee.  It was from a collection designed during Angelina Jolie’s tenure as spokesperson so it had to have at least one edgy feature. I suppose an above-the-knee hemline could technically be considered edgy for a brand like St. John.

The night of the dinner arrives.

I look appropriate.

I wear killer shoes which makes me feel better about the dress.

I am bare-legged as I have been since 1990.

I’m wearing eye-liner.

I am feeling okay.

We climb into the car.

We are halfway there.


A wave of panic sweeps over me and I can feel my face get hot.

“The tattoo”, I wail.

“Oh, bullshit. No one will even notice”, my husband assures me.  “You look fine”.

I believe him.

And we arrive.

The women all wear jackets of some sort.

(Note to self:  believe what your friends tell you.)

All conversation stops.

For a moment I feel like a terrier that’s been lured into a pack of coyotes.

All eyes migrate south and land on a tiny speck of real estate just above my right ankle as if it’s lit up in bright green neon.

Are these people just hard-wired to zero in on the unacceptable as soon as it walks in the door of their pristine environment?

It’s not an obnoxious tattoo.  It’s small. It is not satanic in nature.  It is a petite hieroglyph. A small expression of personality not nearly as gaudy as the massive diamond boulders that hang from the ring fingers of just about every blazer-wearing, blue-blooded female in this joint.

But it’s a tattoo none the less and it has no place here.

A few eyes linger on that little patch of controversy.

And it makes me want to get another one.

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March 29, 2010 3:18 pm

First of all, welcome back we missed you! As I explained to my wife, I have know idea which way round the tights go, while dressing my 2 year old.
I thought that was the very definition of getting a tattoo? To be a little different, to stand out. But don’t go for the Swastika near your private parts, you’ll make Sandra Bullock win an Oscar!

March 30, 2010 12:04 pm

Holy crap you have emerged from hidding. I thought that maybe the new MAC was holding you hostage from writting. As for the above mentioned. Lord I am glad to be a man. For years I had to decide on boxers or briefs. Then some genius decided to sew the 2 together. Whala-Boxerbriefs…. Problem solved. As for the tattoo, You might have started a new trend there. I personally think it is very classy. Just dont encourage my girls, not yet anyway. Their time will come.

April 10, 2010 7:25 pm

Dang Julie, I know that mom or I would have had an appropriate jacket for you to wear! I think mom has one with a horse on it, or maybe a Christmas tree. Too bad we didn’t know sooner.
As far as the shoes, next time it will have to be combat boots, with sparkles of course, and matching socks.
p.s. The record player came Thursday! It’s great. I haven’t been this excited since the incubator! The kids all told me I had a really big CD.

Sharon J Matthams
April 11, 2010 5:37 pm

Oh how I have missed your wit and wisdom. Please return to blogland more often!

April 12, 2010 3:11 am

Welcome back!

I am quite sure that when you walked in the room the blue-bloods did not zero in on your little piece of “real estate”, but were in awe of the entire piece of “real estate”. At leat you are the real deal – not a fake guady massive diamond boulder hanging from a finger.

Keep those legs bare! If you got it – flaunt it!