Attention, Please!

I’ve never been one to want attention. 


I avoid it, actually. 


This, of course, begs the question of why I have a blog but more on that later.


As a kid, I wouldn’t allow people to take my picture.  I’m not sure if it was just to irritate my parents or if I really felt insecure.  I would also never play the piano for people. I was actually pretty good at it but for some reason it would just infuriate me that my parents wanted me to show it off.   They were proud.  I shunned this with bitchy little girl attitude that I still sorta have but don’t want to admit so I won’t.  When they visit, they still want me to play.  I still won’t.  I have no excuse for this.


I’ve come to believe this is some sort of deep emotional rebellion.  


Yeah.  That’s it; rebellion.


Because I love music in all forms so why wouldn’t I want to share it if I could actually make it?  Perhaps it was because the only thing kids were taught to play in small town Illinois was classical music.  I resented that.  What I wanted was to play that kick ass piano solo from Layla by Derrick and the Dominos but instead, I was stuck with Beethoven Concertos in some sort of minor or major or Debussy’s weird impressionism (although Clair de Lune haunts me in a weirdly comforting way).


And while I’m on the subject of music, I also played the flute.  My idol was Ian Anderson from Jethro Tull.  What a cool, wild-haired-spitting-into-his-woodwind-hunk-a-rock-‘n-rock he was.  But I’m here to tell ‘ya, they don’t make sheet music for that either so this merely added to my frustration.  Not that I would have tried to emulate him anyway.  I would have looked like an idiot.


Oh, I forgot to mention, I’m deathly afraid of fucking up in a public sort of way. Like playing the wrong note or losing sight of my place on the page; of getting lost.


Damn!  Why wasn’t I born with any of that try-out-for-American-Idol-no-matter-how-bad-I-suck kind of chutzpah?  *big sigh*


So….back to the subject of the blog and why it doesn’t bother me that it draws attention, albeit in a rather controlled way.  I’m alone when I do it.  There is no one watching me, no one listening, per se.  It feels like a solitary pursuit and that’s where I’m most comfortable. It’s peaceful and non-threatening.  I won’t release anything until I’m confident I haven’t made a mistake unlike music where a sour note is reflected on the faces of the audience……immediately.   I am safe here and my sour notes are usually edited out before they go anywhere.  At least that’s what I tell myself, anyway.


One last thing:  For all of you out there with classical music on your “please hold while your party is reached” cell phone message; can you please just get some Coldplay for fuck sake??

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March 13, 2009 2:50 pm

Oh wow that was straight at me! well Boss 2, it was Boss 1 that wanted it! So get your stories straight… Boss 1 thought INXS was rap music and the last time I checked I was not gay, so Coldplay is not going to happen.
Love your classical music, it’s classic.

March 16, 2009 2:48 pm

I was, once-upon-a-time a very mediocre actress. I rarely got stage fright. Some of the best actors and actresses I knew DID. Perhaps it is about a degree of investment that is so high it makes a generally pervasive “fear of failure” into something even bigger…? Rebellion is something else entirely. I find myself realizing I’m not doing things I actually WANT to do because I have this habit of rebelling from my childhood (like keep my room and kitchen clean…)… Sometimes it pays to rebel against a habit of rebellion maybe? Mostly, though, I find it interesting that on… Read more »

March 16, 2009 5:34 pm

oh my god, did you go to catholic school? Illinois, California, it doesn’t matter where one was raised, it seems like everyone I know that went to Catholic school suffers from the same anxiety! i think it has to do with being “uniform”and not standing out in a crowd…humility is all important…mea coupa, mea coupa! js